Another Substacker suggested placing your feet on the floor when you first wake up and saying, “Today is going to be a great day!” It’s working so far!
ooof I’ve been feeling the overwhelm around this! my wardrobe - the clothes that I have are enough. I don’t need another pair of sneakers or a dress I never wear 😅
On the weekends, I sleep in and I don’t rush. I don’t post. I don’t open my phone. I just sip coffee and enjoy the calm in the morning. (much like you, it sounds!) I feel like I’m doing that right 🫶🏼
I don't want to chill anyone's positive buzz, but this resonated with me for how I'm handling my grief. I spend a lot of time admonishing myself about doing more, doing a better job at things, etc. But, then I realized--this is me doing a good job. Why am I expecting more of myself--during a deeply sad and difficult time--than I would anyone else on the planet? I may not get to my bills or schedule more classes or remember almost anything, but I'm moving forward (mostly) and staying present for the most important thing: remembering my daughter. ♥
When I was also going through a tumultuous time of grief, what helped me most was to remember that grief is like my fingerprint. Mine and mine alone. No one else can tell me how or what my fingerprint should be like. I’m wishing for you self-kindness and self-gentleness. 🥰
I appreciate your comment. I was thinking something similar. I had just been listening to a podcast earlier today about how often we feel we are not "doing grief right".... We all know there isn't a single way and it will look different for each of us, but I think it is something many of us run into. I find myself thinking about this, too, as I try and understand this path I am walking. (I'm sorry for your loss.)
I love waking up to a positivity boost!! I had been berating myself for hitting snooze 4 times this morning 🤣 I was feeling the “I’m not waking up right” blues.
But now, you’ve given me a lovely permission slip to focus on what I’m doing right. My one thing I’ve done right this week- I had another NYT Tiny Love Story published a few days ago! So, it would seem that I’ve figured out the 100 word formula to get these bite sized pieces published 😍😍😍 (maybe?)
Today is the anniversary of my mom’s passing and instead of feeling dread and sadness, I’m doing alright. For the first time in 16 years, I feel ok right this second. ❤️
Thank you for helping me shift focus this morning, Evelyn! You’re the best 😍
I’ve come to peace with doing right by doing something wrong. Turns out Substack might not be the best platform for posts that need to be read one after another, like chapters in a book. But I’m committed to this project… And I’ll see it through to the very last chapter. 😂
I love that you're giving yourself free rein to experiment, Ariane. I also really appreciate that you stopped in and commented so kindly on many others' posts! It's so generous of you. 💛
At this point, Evelyn, it’s way past an experiment. More like a commitment that might be going down a rabbit hole. But at least it’s my rabbit hole, right?
I love this - focusing on the good things we are doing! Yesterday I wrote & published 2 new posts ~ 1 on Substack & 1 on Patreon, & shared on social media. Also, found a feather when I walked the labyrinth this morning. 😁 🪶❤️
I'm maintaining a schedule for my stack even though it's a bite sized post once a week. Setting new habits is especially hard for me, but I've found a way to gamify my to do lists so I can turn those things into habits.
I work at a research admin office at a university and sometimes grant opportunities are limited to only one or two per institution. In that case, we have to run a competition to select the research group that will apply. This week, one group suggested that our bid would be stronger if all the interested parties came together in a consortium. I contacted each one individually and asked for their permission to share details, and they all gathered for a meeting this morning. We canceled the in-house comp and they will all apply for the grant together. :)
Labour Day Weekend will be fun because I'll share our interview ❤️
Love love love that I can listen to your voice on the go and not to an AI voice. I think all authors "should" do this. I also feel this echo chamber of the Internet often. "Do this, not that."
We don't have a long weekend in Germany but I'll read at least a few pages of your Last Year In Spain in the Shadow of a tree in the garden. Talk soon, Evelyn ❤️ Kristina
One thing I'm already doing right - managing as best as I can considering the circumstances I'm in (juggling chores, helping out my cancer patient mom, paying bills, working, caring for plants and pets, being a good girlfriend, etc.)
Another Substacker suggested placing your feet on the floor when you first wake up and saying, “Today is going to be a great day!” It’s working so far!
Oooh I really love that, gonna steal it.
It sort of reminds me of a Thich Nhat Hanh quote I love: "Waking up this morning, I smile. Twenty-four brand new hours are before me."
Oh, Barb, that is priceless. Starting my new Good Morning ritual tomorrow. Thank you.
ooof I’ve been feeling the overwhelm around this! my wardrobe - the clothes that I have are enough. I don’t need another pair of sneakers or a dress I never wear 😅
Yesss!
I have so many pretty dresses I never wear. Poor things hanging out in the closet, nowhere to go!!
SAME! and my brain keeps wanting me to buy more 🤦🏻♀️ what is wrong with me 😂😂
Haha! Mine too.
On the weekends, I sleep in and I don’t rush. I don’t post. I don’t open my phone. I just sip coffee and enjoy the calm in the morning. (much like you, it sounds!) I feel like I’m doing that right 🫶🏼
I am raising a coffee mug to you, Mica. Cheers to slow, indulgent weekend mornings!
I don't want to chill anyone's positive buzz, but this resonated with me for how I'm handling my grief. I spend a lot of time admonishing myself about doing more, doing a better job at things, etc. But, then I realized--this is me doing a good job. Why am I expecting more of myself--during a deeply sad and difficult time--than I would anyone else on the planet? I may not get to my bills or schedule more classes or remember almost anything, but I'm moving forward (mostly) and staying present for the most important thing: remembering my daughter. ♥
I feel this deeply, Cindy. You're doing great, you're doing enough, you're doing something so impossibly hard. ❤️
When I was also going through a tumultuous time of grief, what helped me most was to remember that grief is like my fingerprint. Mine and mine alone. No one else can tell me how or what my fingerprint should be like. I’m wishing for you self-kindness and self-gentleness. 🥰
I appreciate your comment. I was thinking something similar. I had just been listening to a podcast earlier today about how often we feel we are not "doing grief right".... We all know there isn't a single way and it will look different for each of us, but I think it is something many of us run into. I find myself thinking about this, too, as I try and understand this path I am walking. (I'm sorry for your loss.)
I love waking up to a positivity boost!! I had been berating myself for hitting snooze 4 times this morning 🤣 I was feeling the “I’m not waking up right” blues.
But now, you’ve given me a lovely permission slip to focus on what I’m doing right. My one thing I’ve done right this week- I had another NYT Tiny Love Story published a few days ago! So, it would seem that I’ve figured out the 100 word formula to get these bite sized pieces published 😍😍😍 (maybe?)
Today is the anniversary of my mom’s passing and instead of feeling dread and sadness, I’m doing alright. For the first time in 16 years, I feel ok right this second. ❤️
Thank you for helping me shift focus this morning, Evelyn! You’re the best 😍
(Happy) hugs and congratulations to you, Mesa! I think it'll be a great day and weekend for you. ❤️
Thank youuu Evelyn!!
I’ve come to peace with doing right by doing something wrong. Turns out Substack might not be the best platform for posts that need to be read one after another, like chapters in a book. But I’m committed to this project… And I’ll see it through to the very last chapter. 😂
I love that you're giving yourself free rein to experiment, Ariane. I also really appreciate that you stopped in and commented so kindly on many others' posts! It's so generous of you. 💛
At this point, Evelyn, it’s way past an experiment. More like a commitment that might be going down a rabbit hole. But at least it’s my rabbit hole, right?
haha yes, that's right!!
With the help of my wife and daughter, I’m caring for seven formerly stray cats.
Oh, I love this so much, Michael!
I love this - focusing on the good things we are doing! Yesterday I wrote & published 2 new posts ~ 1 on Substack & 1 on Patreon, & shared on social media. Also, found a feather when I walked the labyrinth this morning. 😁 🪶❤️
Such wonderful abundance for you today! 💛
Feathers… such good juju…🧚♂️
😁
I'm maintaining a schedule for my stack even though it's a bite sized post once a week. Setting new habits is especially hard for me, but I've found a way to gamify my to do lists so I can turn those things into habits.
I love when you figure out what works for YOU. Hooray for allll the victories, big and small.
Love this mindset, Evelyn! This week/weekend I'm editing my novel 🥰
Ooh have so much fun, Jill!
Thank you!!
I work at a research admin office at a university and sometimes grant opportunities are limited to only one or two per institution. In that case, we have to run a competition to select the research group that will apply. This week, one group suggested that our bid would be stronger if all the interested parties came together in a consortium. I contacted each one individually and asked for their permission to share details, and they all gathered for a meeting this morning. We canceled the in-house comp and they will all apply for the grant together. :)
Shoni, this made me smile so broadly!
The best part was that the grant opportunity is called "working for women" and every single research group was led by a woman. 💪
Yes. Your destination and path are as unique as you are. Someone else’s roadmap won’t get you there. Play your game!
Hear hear, Scott!
Labour Day Weekend will be fun because I'll share our interview ❤️
Love love love that I can listen to your voice on the go and not to an AI voice. I think all authors "should" do this. I also feel this echo chamber of the Internet often. "Do this, not that."
We don't have a long weekend in Germany but I'll read at least a few pages of your Last Year In Spain in the Shadow of a tree in the garden. Talk soon, Evelyn ❤️ Kristina
Books + weekend = perfection
I'm already waking up and writing my blog. I'm grateful to God for that.
Beautiful, Detra. Truly.
Thank you for this, Evelyn. It was exactly the kind of encouragement boost I needed today.
Sending you a big big smile this weekend, Jeannie!
Thanks, Evelyn. You're so kind.
One thing I'm already doing right - managing as best as I can considering the circumstances I'm in (juggling chores, helping out my cancer patient mom, paying bills, working, caring for plants and pets, being a good girlfriend, etc.)
Yes to all this kindness to yourself and recognizing that you’re doing a great job, Regina! 💛
Thank you, Evelyn!